Leavings
by Sarah Russell
Leavings are untidy. Remembering
what you want to say as the car pulls away,
or the cell phone drops into your purse,
restraint in an embrace, the casual
see ya, when you ache for more.
There was that time my mother died—
a stiff, proud woman who did not touch.
She lay in bed, while her brothers and I
hovered. We asked if she needed a blanket,
if she wanted music, if she were hungry,
thirsty. At each offering, she jerked her head
from side to side, tight-lipped, angry.
Then the young, Hispanic hospice aide reached
out and took her hand. She knew what leavings
needed, what my mother couldn’t bring herself
to ask for, what we didn’t understand to give.
My mother sighed and held that gentle,
reassuring hand. The aide leaned in, caressed
a wisp of hair on her forehead. My mother smiled,
and took her last breaths.
Photo by Sandor Kacso, used by permission.
NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR: For over 30 years I’ve regretted not knowing what my mother needed at the end of her life, and how grateful I am to the young woman who did. It helped to finally honor both of them in this poem.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Sarah Russell’s poetry and fiction have been published in Kentucky Review, Poppy Road Review, Misfit Magazine, Rusty Truck, Third Wednesday, and many other journals and anthologies. She is a Pushcart Prize nominee. She has two poetry collections published by Kelsay Books, I lost summer somewhere and Today and Other Seasons. She blogs at SarahRussellPoetry.net.
Oh Sarah, this is my mother also. A proud English woman, proud in every way, always proper. Thank you for this poem. It touched my heart. Marilynn
Thanks, Marilyn. I think it was a stoic generation.
This brought tears. The language of touch is our first, and the strongest, even to the end. The reason this social distancing is so very hard ..it goes against our nature.
Beautiful poem!!
Thanks, Mary.
So very moving, Sarah. I can’t even imagine. And so glad you mentioned the hispaic hospice aid. Thank you for that.
Thanks, Rose. Hard one to write.
how sad, made me think of my very strict father who actually kissed my hand and my mother’s hand after his second stroke…
Reblogged this on Sarah Russell Poetry and commented:
My poem “Leavings” was just published by Silver Birch Press. Thanks, Melanie!
Reblogged this on Stevie's Law and commented:
from my friend Sarah, a wonderful poet
I am profoundly moved by your poem.
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Beautiful, Sarah. There is such grace in your writing.
Reblogged this on days of stone and commented:
A beautiful poem by my talented friend, Sarah Russell
this is an amazing poem and backstory